The Proposal, Engagement, And Why We’re Getting Married in Less Than 6 Months
In light of today being our one year anniversary, I thought it’d be fitting to give you a BTS look at me and Zack’s engagement! 2 weeks ago, he finally popped the question. In my type A nature, I’ve been frantically planning and booking vendor after vendor, making spread sheets, and budgeting each detail (all while finishing up my graduate degree, might I add). It’s been hectic but it’s already such a sweet season. So here’s a little inside look at how it all went down.
I had inklings that Zack would be proposing soon (tbh, I was really antsy and quite pushy towards him as to when it was going to happen). We had had dinner plans with my in-laws for Friday the 12th because family was in town and he had me CONVINCED it was not happening then. I was, honestly, extremely disappointed. I thought it would have been perfect to have everyone there for us on such a special day. But after a lot of talking myself down and prayer, I let it go, put it in God’s hands, and trusted Zack would deliver the proposal of my dreams because I knew he cared for me deeply. When the 12th came around, I was overwhelmed with anxiety for a different reason. This was also the day that I was scheduled to take my counselor licensure exam, i.e. the big cumulative exam that determines whether we wasted our time in grad school or not and if we can get a job (no pressure). I was a wreck, scared out of my mind, and had to drive an hour for my exam to a place I'd never been before. Thankfully, I PASSED! So, when I got home, naturally, I crashed. #NapLifeForever
Around 4pm, I got a call from Zack. He was on his way to my place to pick me up for family dinner. When he got to my place, I was still asleep, looking like a bum, and not at all ready for what was about to happen. Zack came in and woke me up, rushing me out the door and being ultra-pushy (very unlike him, might I add). His excuse was that we’d be late, but then he decided he wanted a snack before we left for dinner *eye roll*. I wanted to wait in the car but he insisted I come with him; however, instead of heading for the place I thought we were going, Zack pulled me by the hand into our church (just a few doors down). Everything began to unfold in front of me and I still couldn’t believe it in the moment.
The next thing I knew I was standing in the middle of a heart shape made from flower peddles with tea-lit paper bags spelling out, “Will You Marry Me?” I was crying uncontrollably, unable to understand what he was saying. All I remember saying was, “yes!”, adamantly and hearing clapping. I turned around to find my parents and in-laws standing in the dark with cameras and tears in their eyes. We all hugged and cried, embracing one of the best moments of all of our lives. Super sappy, but wonderful. I couldn’t have imagined it any other way.
We’ve been engaged for almost 2 weeks and it already seems to be flying by. This time is filled with lots of planning (and stress) while the reality of what’s to come sinks in. Engagement honestly doesn’t feel much different from our dating relationship. The day after we got engaged, both of us discussed how we were expecting this huge change and to feel completely different, like gain super powers or something; but the only real difference is we’re planning a wedding.
I believe that if our time of dating hadn’t been as intentional or serious, engagement would feel different. But because we were forthright about marriage from the start, engagement feels like a sigh of relief. We finally get to release the breath we’ve been holding for the past year and say, “We made it where we wanted to be.”
Why We’re Getting Married in Less Than 6 Months
And now, the answer to the question you’ve all been waiting for! I have gotten an abundance of questions about this and now it’s time to set the record straight. YES, we are getting married THIS fall. YES, it is ‘soon’. YES, we’re sure. But NO, we’re not crazy.
Our intentions as a couple has always been to have a short engagement. Neither one of us sees the point of dragging out an engagement for a year or more considering our circumstances. When you know, you know. So why wait?
With a longer engagement, you’ll probably end up spending more money on your wedding than you planned (more time can lead to adding more stuff you don’t need). Zack and I are also not living together until we’re married. With the move to Morgantown quickly approaching, it makes more financial sense for us to get married sooner rather than later, so we can be under one roof paying one set of bills rather than living separately and spending double the money. Lastly, the bible doesn’t tell us to wait. Don’t mishear me here; I am not claiming that there is anywhere in the bible that tells you how long your engagement should be or even who you should marry. However, when Paul is addressing the church of Corinth concerning marriage, he says this, “To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion” (1 Corinthians 7:8-9). In other words, being single can free you up for doing more work for the Lord, but if you want to get married: do it and get back to work!
This season is full excitement and love and stress and expectancy. Honestly, my heart feels a good kind of messy with all the parts of engagement that we've experienced so far. I am so looking forward to being married, but am soaking up this time that I’ll never experience again. So here’s to planning and being showered and embracing our community through this time as we prepare for the rest of our lives!